Few month back, I received a call from my ex-staff and we were chatting on the phone. She was a lil bit down due to some issue in the office. frankly speaking, my relation with my ex-staff are good friend and although we have moved on to another company, we still keep in contact with each other. We may not be able to meet up with each other, we still keep in touch via chatting room or facebook.

Back to the issue, she feel upset on certain issue and yet she is not be able to speak out as her boss are “of a kind”. What I told her was there are many type of boss in this challenging career world. There are good ones and bad ones. As a staff you need to be able to accept this or just leave it. I believe that no people are indispensable be it you are the key person or just a staff.

Looking back on my career life, I would said that I am lucky to have a good boss previously who could lead me into where I am now. I start from a clerical post to now the manager post and I would said that I do suffer to gain to my position now. My previous boss, FY are still my friend till now and although she is now @ top level management level of a well known MNC company, we still keep in touch with each other. She is the one who thought me that :

• even though you are a boss, treat your staff well and you be treated the same. Show your sincerity in your work and your attitude towards your staff. You will gain their trust and believed it that you will get the work done easily.
• Don’t ever act different in front of each staff and don’t talk bad abt your staff in front of your boss. whether the staff are good or bad, you need to lead them but if there is nochange in the staff then it is up to you to tell your boss.
• treat them your friend instead of your staff. Do work together and enjoy the process. Process could be tedious, instead of giving out instruction, tried to work together and learn together. Both would get benefit on this. You will not scare if your staff leave you as you knew how to do the work yourself.
• Enjoy your time with your staff and friend. There are always other thing that you could share with your staff other than work. This make the working environment more happier and staff are motivated to work for you.

What I could said here is that, the above are my way of working now. After FY, I have 3 more ex-boss who are based in Australia and Singapore/Bangkok are still my friend. Although they are far away, we still keep in touch via facebook and SMS/call. All my ex-boss are the ones that I respect the most…

“ Dearest boss,

Thank you so much for all the leadership that you have thought me and lead me to where I am now. I will always remember, that “ trust is not given to you but trust is earned from your staff” and ” a leader will gain the respect by your follower. Dont be a leader that are scare by your follower”.. Trust me, I will become a leader just like you…” 

I like this picture alot as it is very seldom I be able to take picture with them especially Chloe. Normally, I will only be able to capture candid photo of her while she doing something as she refused to take any photo or before I can “click” she already running towards me and ask to see her photo…

Both of them are quite creative to create something be it my cookery set, my fork and spoon etc, that they can play with when they are at home. Of course, in popo house they will not do so as they knew po po will angry if they naughty while @ home, they just as curious as they are, trying to create toys that they can play with after they feel fed up with their own toys…

You will hear Chloe saying “ta ta, push me. I want (to) buy thing… fast fast” or Zoey saying” Kakak, push me pls, I want to buy fish to cook” and so on.. my maid is the ones who played a lot with them and they too, knew abt it.

Thank goodness, my maid decided to stayed with us for another 2 years ie till Sept 2011 after she agreed to stay on with us after her contract ended last week. If not, how am I going to explain to the kids that their kakak is going home. They are so attached to their kakak especially Chloe where this maid was here when she was only 2 months old. Basically. Chloe grown up with this kakak and sometimes only my maid knew what she want. My maid can understand her very well…

I brought this toy when Zoey was like a year old. At that time, Zoey does not know how to play with it and since then, the toy was kept in her play room until now, when we moved the kids to their room, they found this toy. Since then, they loves to play with it. They said they want to build a house for mommy and daddy and sometimes they said ” this is mommy’s house, high high up in the sky”…

As normal, we went back to hubby’s hometown for this long weekend. What we do there for this loong weekend? We cooked, we chat with each other and we solved problem among hubby’s sibling and us being their wife. As most of you knew, hubby family is quite big. my mil have 7 sons and 2 daughter which one of my SIL already passed away due to sickness. You can imagine if we goes out for dinner, with table of 10, we need almost 4 tables to accomodate everyone.

The opportunity of gathering among us is rare due to work commitment and also with family commitment. We seldom able to gathered every body together except for CNY and this raya week, we managed to gather all the sons for a family dinner. Looking at MIL happy face, we knew that it is worthwhile to have everyone back home and to gather for MIL sake. She feels so touched when every son walked into the house and greet her and her tears was just rolling down. Would I be the same when I’m old?

This family although are big, and unlike other family, the brothers and their wife are good although sometimes there are also some argument happened. We forgive and forget and avoiding any unhappiness in the family.  

I still remembered when I was married into hubby family, I got scared to see so many people for the reunion dinner. everyone of them are so close, able to jokes among themselves and me being the newest family in the family, I feel left out … but time passed. I managed to let go alot of dissatisfaction feeling and managed to “blend” into hubby family quite well.

The last 3 days with us spending them with hubby family, myself are happy and the girls even more. They played among the cousins and was ignoring our presence and prefer to be with their cousins. For Chloe, there is an improvement of her to mixed with her cousins. She now more brave to venture our from mommy circle to played with her cousins sister.. however, she still choose and pick her cousins to play with.

To me, to see hubby grinning and happy to be with his mother is something that I can at least to for him as his wife….

This was very long outdated post…

we celebrated a day earlier from the actual date @ seremban with my MIL and BIL family. Unlike Zoey, we decided to stick back to secret recipe cakes this round after we tested the cupcakes. both the girls loves the cake very much. 

For Chloe, she was just recovered from a long week of sickness before this birthday celebration. as I did not bring my camera back, not much birthday photo was captured on that day.

chloe was abit cracky just before the cake blowing and was just refused to take photo and many photo was captured blurred.